Our society needs to start accepting the reality that women need to prioritize their happiness and security by leaving their abusive marriages. Journalist Laaleen posed this question on Twitter when she wrote: “Happily divorced mother of three children”
Happily divorced mother of three children
— 𝓛𝓪𝓪𝓵𝓮𝓮𝓷 لعلین 🍇🍬🍭🐢🤖 (@laaleen) July 27, 2021
Another men flooded the comments since they could not fathom that a woman exercising her own independence to seek happiness beyond marriage was possible. so this one suggested that she was abandoning her children in this process
If your children had been your top priority, you would never have taken recourse to divorce instead found a middle way to obviate your differences.Wait for the day when your children will ask you the bitter question like how you managed to spend your cold nights alone. Then?
— Zahid Chandio (@man2god11) July 29, 2021
Soon, other women on Twitter reached out to school the man on his misogynist mindset and to prove that a happy family can be just a divorced mother and her children.
You know what’s unwise? Children being stuck in an unhappy environment with unhappy parents living together. What is more unwise is strangers trying to guilt trip a person regarding her life choices using her kids. A stranger thinks that he knows better than a parent.
— SJL (@ustani_jee) July 29, 2021
Children could be top priority by taking care for them from distance in many cases. Company of some people can be abusive and keeping kids away from such men or women is a must just like you needed to be kept safe but see how you have turned into bitter and sort of abusive https://t.co/PtbhN6MC36
— O Al-Sah-Him 🇵🇸🇵🇰🏹 (@O_al_sah_him) July 31, 2021
This kind of discourse is so problematic. You’re normalizing women staying in unhappy marriages, sometimes with toxic and/or abusive partners.
Yes, divorce can be difficult on a child. 100%
But it’s better than letting a child adopt toxic behavior and recreate patterns of abuse https://t.co/DD1zpVpWYB
— HoneyBeeBumbling 🇵🇸 (@honeybeebumblin) July 30, 2021
dude i come from a dysfunctional household,i always wanted my parents to be divorced ,their unhappy marriage caused me ptsd, and lifelong trauma , she did the best she could do,you have not even walked a mile in her shoes,and you lowkey judged her https://t.co/TALtmOMnKr
— trisha (@wtfdude10433) July 29, 2021
Such old fashioned toxic mentailty. Kids are better in two happy homes rather than a toxic environment. Why should a woman sacrifice? Cold nights alone? Ever had a whole bed to yourself and slept diagonally?!?! Kids respect strength and stance. It sets an example for life. https://t.co/ZQhb3AadX7
— Elly (@TheRebelRise) July 29, 2021
Let’s remember that the age-old mindset that women must keep silent and compromise in order to keep their unhappy marriages working needs to be debunked. Women need to realize that seeking safety and independence is their right, as well as the correct thing to do for themselves and their children.