Recently in a podcast with Frieha Altaf, Ayesha Omar shed some light on her eight year long abusive relationship, a relationship known to the respective families and alas a relationship that serves as a lesson for other women. Like many other women she believed that she could change the other person or ‘fix’ him with her love. She also elaborated like most abusive relationships, the groveling and apologies after abuse were also a regular feature. She concluded by saying that she finally walked away after physical abuse.
The show also featured how the general abuse slang is always directed towards women whenever men chat amongst their friends. While this may not look very alarming to others but this does play a contributing role in normalizing abuse towards women. The increasing exposure to problematic dramas that also reinforce such narratives continue to see improved TRPS showing how such scenes are watched in a majority of households.
It’s courageous of Ayesha to be vocal about it, it enables other women to break free from abusive cages too. Such conversations allow women to feel that they are not alone and staying silent is not the only answer to such behaviors. It lets women stand up for themselves, get inspired and not feel confined in their relationships. Such conversations encourage you to look at your relationship from an objective lens. It makes you believe that walking out of a relationship is not the end of the world.
She further highlighted how she believes that such behaviors are mainly a result of unresolved traumas and she hopes that her ex-partner can get over them. Talking about trauma and healing is so important, this allows us to look at people in a tolerant manner and help people resolve their problematic behavior. She doesn’t categorize him as a bad man but someone who needs to resolve his traumas.