‘Aap bohat ache hain’: How patriarchal pressure drives Hurmat’s lack of agency, pushing her into a hasty love confession

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What began as a fight for higher education has breathed rebelliousness into the young Hurmat (Dananeer Mobeen). A girl who has stayed locked inside her house all her life has felt the breeze of liberty and freedom, giving her hope of living life on her own terms. However, this idea is far from reality: in Hurmat’s life, her autonomy doesn’t count; her decisions are controlled by her father’s wishes and desires. A girl with zero say in her own life, exploring the world through a different lens, being mischievous with her girlfriends, and seeking a prospective love match is nothing but a recipe for disaster.

Her tragedy lies in her lack of autonomy; stepping onto a university campus gave Hurmat her first real taste of agency. For the first time, she saw a world where girls make their own choices, speak their minds, and dream without asking for permission. However, bringing those eyes back home only makes the walls feel higher; in her household, her father’s authority is absolute. Her voice is silenced before she can even speak, leaving her caught between the person she wants to become and the submissive daughter she is forced to remain.


Living under such total control means that even the simplest pleasures of growing up are loaded with risk. When a girl has zero control over her own destiny, innocent moments become dangerous territory. Sharing secret laughs with her girlfriends, acting a little mischievous, or enjoying a moment of pure freedom are not seen as harmless youth. Rather, these simple joyrides are seen as alarming signs of losing control.

Desperate for escape and completely starved of agency, her lack of autonomy makes her dangerously vulnerable. The first man who showed heroism has become her idol. Chasing him down as a fan and getting an autograph with a lipstick is something she cannot even imagine. Daring to look for a prospective love match, someone chosen by her own heart rather than handed to her, is the ultimate breach. In her father’s eyes, marriage is a transaction of family honor and his personal decision, not her life to live.

Watching others live freely while you are forced to obey every command created a deep, quiet despair for Hurmat. She is forced to play the quiet, dutiful daughter on the outside, even as her mind expands and demands more from life. Hurmat walks a dangerous tightrope; the freedom has already awakened her mind, but patriarchal control still keeps her hands tied. Every step she takes into the outside world gives her a clearer view of what she is missing, making her reality at home even harder to swallow.

Hurmat viewers have also picked on her innocence as she claims her freedom and agency. Stating that she is not supposed to be a whitewashed character, rather a girl making mistakes after being failed by her family, an X user posted:

Adding how Dananeer adds depth to Hurmat’s turmoil, a user posted: